Traditionally, baby showers are for celebrating a woman’s transition into becoming a mother. She is showered with gifts to help her lean into this new role and for many, it’s only a one-time deal. But for me, I’ve had a baby shower for each of my children and after learning I was expecting my fourth child earlier this year, I did it again. Here’s why.

But first, here’s a quick look at the baby sprinkle I threw for our little girl.

In August, I hosted what I called “The Finale”, a celebration of my 4th and final baby. I invited only the closest women in my life to come along, so there were only about 12 of us and it was perfect. I truly do prefer intimate celebrations over anything else and with COVID-19 at play, it definitely was necessary. I rented a small gathering space in the back of an ice cream shop and it was so quaint with little victorian style details turned modern, perfect for the occassion.

For the color scheme, I went with rose gold, gold, pink, and purple. I hand-made the above photo frame with a little Pinterest inspiration and gifted the guests with these bath bombs because they truly are the “bomb” for showing up to all of my celebrations. They smelled so good and came individually wrapped, which was perfect. I kept the menu simple with salad, wraps, and yummy desserts⸺ petit fours, and a cake adorned with macarons. I took a tip from my "events on a tight budget research and snagged some books from the dollar tree to use as props for my cake. It was delicious and just perfect for an afternoon shower.

Before I let you in on why I think a baby shower for each child is perfectly okay, let me just say that if you snark at the idea and you don’t plan on having any then this post is not for you OR you could stick around to get an understanding of why we may choose this route. Also, everyone has the choice to do whatever they want and my way may not be your way and that’s okay.

Having a baby shower after the first can be a bit controversial, even taboo. People aren’t as interested. Many women struggle with the idea because it can sometimes be met with interesting remarks (trust me, I’ve heard a few), but I’m here to tell you that I’ve thrown one for each of my kids and I regret not one. Baby showers are a celebration. For me, it is a celebration of a new life. Every time a woman becomes pregnant, she is literally creating a new life inside of her womb. That life will eventually join the society and become a part of the world. Creating a human being is not an easy feat, in fact, some women (who really want to) don’t get the chance at all and it is truly so sad. So, if I have been given the opportunity to create and I choose to exercise that right, why would I not celebrate the life I am adding to the world?

The pessimists will say, “because you want gifts, we get it.” But here’s the thing, it is not about the gifts. It is about taking the time to acknowledge the life that has been created. Much like celebrating a birthday, only this one happens in advance. I believe that each time a woman creates new life, it should be celebrated in whatever way feels comfortable to them. That could be a baby shower or sprinkle with all their family and friends or an intimate dinner with their partner. Let us not forget that if it were not for women birthing humans, none of us would be here.

Every birth is worthy of a celebration, not only because we are creating the humans, but because getting through pregnancy is a journey in itself. Each one is so different and many women suffer throughout. Others may get through it gracefully. You may be perfectly fine during your first and then so sick you have to remain in the hospital for weeks with your 3rd. Women have sacrificed their lives to bring in another. Women have struggled from losses and infertility to be able to get to this point. Women have endured aches and pain, sadness and depression to birth a new life. If you don’t think that’s worthy of a celebration every single time then you, my friend, are mistaken.

A Baby Shower for Every Kid